Resources & Articles
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The Art of Listening: How Active Listening Transforms Relationships
Think about the last time you felt truly heard. Not just tolerated while you talked or nodded at while someone waited for their turn, but actually heard and genuinely felt like the other person had received what you said? How long ago was that? And more importantly, how often do you offer that to…
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How to Calm Down When You’re Activated: Emotional Regulation Tools That Actually Work
A few weeks ago I wrote about why we react the way we do when we are triggered and briefly explained how we can move out our window of tolerance into hyperarousal or hypo-arousal when we are activated. Today we’re getting practical, because understanding why we get activated is only half the equation. The…
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Both/And: Moving From Black-And-White Thinking Toward Integration
Last week, my colleague Maggie wrote about the paralysis that can come from trying to hold all that is happening in our world. Her post got me thinking about something that often underlies that paralysis: the way our minds, when under stress, tend to sort the world into two neat piles. Good and bad.…
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Five Ways to Ground Yourself When You Feel Overwhelmed
These small practices can help bring you back into the present moment and help you feel your body and physical surroundings. In turn you feel calmer and gain access to the ability to respond more intentionally to whatever is going on in the moment. Then, later with your therapist or when the situational context…
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Why Your Therapist Matters – Part III
Last week, Maggie shared about her therapeutic orientation, building on my post from two weeks ago that explained what a therapeutic alliance is and why it’s important. This week, I’ll share about my own orientation and how it guides the work I do. Radical Self-Love in Therapy: How I Approach Healing and Growth At…
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Why Kids Have Meltdowns: The Brain Science Behind Big Emotions.
If you’ve ever watched your child completely lose it and felt totally helpless, you’re not alone, but did you know that there’s actually a reason this happens? Why It’s Hard to Regulate Big Feelings Becoming a parent is a life changing experience. It’s full of love and joyful moments, and it’s also really difficult…
